Sexological Bodywork

Sexological Bodywork is a body-based educational modality that supports individuals to learn to direct their erotic development and to deepen their embodiment.

Soma is a body ‘experienced from within.’ Our Soma includes our spirit, mind, body and physiology, emotions, and our feelings. In somatic work, we are supported to turn our focus inwards and listen. The felt senses we perceive can include intuitions, unprocessed emotions, and subconscious beliefs that are often held in our connective tissues and nervous system. These create habits and help shape the experience we have of ourselves, and of the world.

We live in a culture that takes our attention away from our internal state and sensory perceptions and leads to a disembodied state of being. Being disembodied causes a variety of challenges when it comes to sexuality. It leads to difficulties in knowing desire and limits; in being present subtle and intense sensations; becoming relaxed enough to open up to pleasure, and finally, perceiving some of the emotions that can arise when being physically intimate with another. Secondly, none of us were given adequate sex, relationship, consent, or pleasure education. There is a culturally- dictated script of what pleasure and sex ‘should’ be which mostly leaves no one really satisfied: not seen, heard or felt. 

Sexological Bodywork and coaching encourage a letting go of culturally- dominant sexual scripts and support the discovery of what is; the wisdom of the body in each moment. It is only from this place that we can make decisions about what touch may or may not be wanted; that we can be autonomous and creative in our sexual lives. This process allows for the integration of your sexual self with all the other parts: the mental, spiritual, bodily and emotional aspects of you.

A person might seek the support of a Sexological Bodyworker to help address specific challenges including safety in your body; consent and boundaries; accessing pleasure; discomfort during intercourse; anal health and pleasure; body image; diminished desire, sexual shame, spiritual sexuality, or a longing for embodied depth connection with yourself and another. 

Sexological Bodyworkers use a client-centered approach to empower, educate and bring attention to felt experience through movement, breath-work, touch, sound, and placement of awareness. This approach facilitates the ability to change limiting habits, unwind and release what is no longer supportive, re-sensitize the body, and create a more expansive state of embodiment. Our teaching involves a variety of instructive modalities blending somatic practice with talking-based coaching and education.

If and when touch is part of the session, it is always one-way (from the practitioner to the client) for the purpose of their somatic learning. The sessions are led by what the client wishes to explore and are co-created between client and practitioner. It takes a slow and gentle approach; we will not usually embark on ‘hands-on’ bodywork until the third or fourth session. This is designed to be a journey consisting of regular sessions over a period of time.