How to raise adults who thrive in an ever-changing world.
You've heard the cliché that children don't come with an owner's manual, but these days almost the opposite is true: there are so many books, blogs and TV shows about parenting – many with contradictory ideas – that our challenge as parents can be sifting through it all and knowing what to believe!
To simplify, consider that parenting really comes down to three things: Protect, Provide, and Guide.
Let's say that we have the first two broadly handled (even if it doesn't always feel like it!) and focus on our broader and deeper role in guiding our children. Because we are not raising children – we are raising adults-in-waiting.
What do we need to prepare and equip them for?
Think of what I call the “Big Four Pillars of Life” – Health, Wealth, Love, and Direction. How are most people doing in these areas in our society today?
There's nothing wrong with being overweight, indebted, divorced or disengaged at work. I've been 3 out of 4 of those things in my life! But the question we face as parents is, which side of these shocking statistics do we want our children to be on when they grow up?
Because in each of these areas the results which our children achieve will be largely decided by the decisions they make and the actions they take. Which in turn are shaped by the way they think and feel on the inside, and the strategies that they have learned.
That sounds pretty daunting – does it mean I have to have all the answers for all of those things, even when I've got challenges in my own life?!
Yes and no. If you can educate your kids in some basic distinctions in each area, and equip them with the emotional intelligence to apply those strategies, and to carry on learning, then the odds will be stacked in their favour.
Some strategies and distinctions to teach them:
And here are some of the key psychological insights and habits which make those strategies doable:
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