More than a pamper moment
Self care is the habit of taking care of yourself: I say habit because it should be a more common practice, even a daily one, but instead because of our increasingly hectic lives we often leave ourselves in the background. And so in order not to move or cancel a work commitment, a project or even just to please someone else, we neglect ourselves and what we really want. On the other hand, it is certainly our society's fault, which insists on proposing the idea of self care as something"elite", sometimes too expensive, something to do for a special occasion, when we are hyper stressed and our limit threshold has already been crossed for some time. This at the expense of our health, our inner balance and our happiness, until at a certain point we don't even know what we wanted anymore, and what really would have made us happy, because we forgot how to do that inner search work.
Knowing what you want: your perfect day
How to know what you want and how to get it is at the basis of self care: in fact, if I don't know what makes me feel good, how can I take care of myself?
A fairly simple exercise to find out is this:
• place yourself in a quiet place, maybe with some relaxing music in the background and some lighted candles;
• take pen and paper and ask yourself this question: if tomorrow was the perfect day of my life, what would I do? How would it be?
The ideal is to describe in detail the whole day from the moment you wake up, until you close your eyes to go to sleep. Don't be afraid to add "useless" details, because they don't exist. From which furniture you have, to your relationships with people, your job... everything is important. Of course, you can start with something basic and list the main activities and add details as things come to mind. You can change your "perfect day" whenever you want, and it will be interesting to go and read what you have written after months or years and see where you are on your path.
Heal your body, mind and spirit
Luckily in this millennium we are learning to give ample space to the disciplines of care, for example yoga, massage therapy, diet and nutrition, etc. They are disciplines that often start from taking care of our physical body and that end up positively influencing our mind and spirit as well. Other important disciplines are those that are currently less common, but which are starting to make their way into our daily lives. I refer to the holistic disciplines, which work on the subtle energies of the person, then balancing the whole of it together, for example Reiki and ThetaHealing. This last one can be of great help especially in the manifestation of your reality and in the achievement of our goals.
Manifesting what you want
Some of our desires come from our subconscious, or conscious but difficult for our mind to "materialize". Imagine how much information our brain has to process every day! This is why our mind is activated when we process our thoughts, and extrapolating them we put them on paper. It is as if we materialized them also in our daily life and we said to the Universe "here, these are my goals, they are tangible and here now, in the present!". Of course I can't describe ThetaHealing in detail now, but there is undoubtedly a very useful exercise to make our wishes come true, manifesting them in our reality.
The Grocery List
This tool is called "the shopping list" and just like when you go to the supermarket, you are asked to make a list of what you want, to demand it to the Universe. Be careful though because there are following rules to follow:
• you can manifest only for yourself and you cannot go against the free will of others (for example you cannot ask that a person love us, because if it is not chosen by him/herself it will not happen,but you can ask to have love and a certain type of relationship);
• you often get what you want so be careful, because you have to be very specific (for example if you write generically that you want a certain amount of money, you could get it from your insurance after having had a car accident!);
• hence the "trick" of writing "for my highest and best good" at each point;
• writing things in the present as if they were already here now, this allows our mind to think we have already obtained them;
• do not be afraid to insert material things (for example a new car or sofa), because it is not a sin!
• add many elements, at least 20-100 elements,so your brain will be ultra stimulated!
After writing your list (it can take days especially if you have many elements) you can do your meditation, including a reading of some or all of your points (if you are ThetaHealer even better, but also a "normal" meditation practice is good enough).