Jessica Vassallo considers how our beliefs and values profoundly impact our ability to experience and handle stress...
Stress is an inevitable part of life. Whether it's work-related pressure, family responsibilities, or personal challenges, stress affects us all. But have you ever wondered why some people seem to handle stress better than others? The answer lies in our beliefs and values—the lenses through which we perceive the world.
Beliefs: The Filters of Perception
Our beliefs act as filters, shaping how we interpret events and situations. Imagine two colleagues facing a tight deadline at work:
1. Emma: She believes that hard work pays off, and challenges are opportunities for growth. When faced with the deadline, she sees it as a chance to showcase her skills and contribute to the team. Emma remains focused, prioritizes tasks, and manages her stress effectively.
2. Alex: He believes that life is inherently unfair, and success is elusive. When confronted with the same deadline, Alex feels overwhelmed. He thinks, "Why bother? It won't make a difference." His stress levels rise, affecting his performance and well-being.
Values: Our Compass in Stressful Waters
Values guide our choices and actions. They represent what truly matters to us. Let's consider the value of "balance":
1. Sophie: She values work-life balance. When stress mounts, Sophie takes breaks, spends time with loved ones, and practices mindfulness. Her belief in balance helps her navigate stress without sacrificing her well-being.
2. Daniel: He prioritizes career success above all else. His belief that hard work leads to achievement drives him to work late nights, skip meals, and neglect self-care. Daniel's stress levels soar, impacting both his health and relationships.
Real-Life Examples
1. The Commute Dilemma:
- Belief: "Traffic is a waste of time."
- Value: "Efficiency matters."
- Scenario: Sarah, a busy executive, believes that time spent commuting is unproductive. She values efficiency and opts for remote work. Her stress decreases, and she uses the saved time for exercise and hobbies.
2. Parenting Pressure:
- Belief: "Good parents sacrifice everything."
- Value: "Family comes first."
- Scenario: Mark, a devoted father, believes that sacrificing for his children is essential. He values family above all. However, he neglects self-care, leading to burnout. Mark's stress affects his parenting effectiveness.
3. Financial Worries:
- Belief: "Money equals security."
- Value: "Financial stability matters."
- Scenario: Lisa, a recent graduate, believes that financial stability ensures safety. She values saving diligently. However, her anxiety about money prevents her from enjoying life. Lisa's stress impacts her mental health.
Our beliefs and values significantly influence how we perceive stress and respond to it. By examining these internal drivers, we can cultivate resilience, make healthier choices, and build a more balanced life. Remember, stress isn't just about external circumstances; it's about how we interpret and navigate them. Let's choose beliefs and values that empower us rather than drain us.
In summary, understanding our beliefs and values allows us to manage stress effectively. By aligning our perceptions with positive beliefs and prioritising values that promote well-being, we can navigate life's challenges with greater resilience.
Jessica Vassallo is a self-leadership trainer, master practitioner of NLP and hypnotherapy based at our rooms in Exeter.
